12 Days of Doula #8
On the eighth day with baby, my doula gave to me,
She fended off my mother.
She helped me find resources.
She helped me with my feelings.
5 freezer meals!
4 loads of laundry!
3 hours of napping!
She helped me feed my baby.
And she sat down and listened to me.
Your space is sacred. Your postpartum is a sacred time.
I will hold you and protect you during this tender time.
Have you ever had a "helper" who wasn't much help at all? They were actually more of a stressor?
Constantly directing your "helpers" is work! And it does not let you rest and heal.
Is there someone who always makes comments that leave you reeling? Do you have an auntie/mother/sister who always knows better than everyone?
Being judged is not a restorative! You deserve to be built up and celebrated. This is your time to discover your own parenting skills and enjoy your baby the way you want to.
Most of us have at least one difficult person in our life. We may love them to bits, but oh-my they wear us out! When your loved ones are causing you stress it can be SO HARD to defend your boundaries. Especially when you are in a tender postpartum state. The last thing you want is an argument or more stress.
When the people around you are stressing you out, your postpartum doula can gently step in and redirect them. I can suggest that your mom take a trip for some groceries or that your sister help me with the laundry. And if you just can't even with visitors, I can also turn them away at the door.
Let's create the environment you want and crave for postpartum recovery and discovery.